This theme has been alive in my life very actively the past few months. I used to think that in order to maintain good relationships or connections with the people in my life I needed to empathize with them no matter what the emotion. In this way I attracted a lot of negative energies (insecurity, jealousy, anger, ext.) into my life. Instead of trying to counteract these people and their emotions with joy and kindness I got bombarded with my own load of negativity for no reason at all but to simply be accepted by others! As I write about it now it sounds crazy to me but I know that because I've learned that I can't let other people shape me and my emotions, I am very happy with my life and I am now reflecting that in everything I do and towards everyone I meet no matter who they are. I come across ALL sorts of people at the restaurant and I approach each person with the same kindness and if they try to counteract that with a negative energy I work to maintain an indifference with them as opposed to a frustration. It's really saved me a lot of my own energy and I'm glad for it, in fact I deal with less negative energy with this approach.
"Love as an external focus, exterior to you, will always bring a sense of vulnerability, always needing constant validation by someone or something. Love, as an internal focus projected outward, is a constant flow of self-assurance, self-acceptance, always striving to incorporate and project more of this blissful feeling of unity and harmony with all creation." - Ronna Star